Sexual Behaviors in Children
Guidelines for Parents and Caregivers
As a parent or caregiver, understanding the developmentally appropriate sexual behaviors of children is essential for fostering their healthy growth and establishing open communication. This understanding enables you to navigate their physical and emotional development while positioning yourself as a supportive role model and resource. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), advises that parents teach children the correct terminology for all body parts, including genitals, penis, vagina, breasts, buttocks, and anus, while reinforcing the concept of privacy regarding these parts. It is common for children to exhibit sexual behaviors from an early age, which may manifest as noticing others' body parts, self-exploration, standing too close to someone, or engaging in self-stimulation (masturbation). As children mature, these behaviors evolve with their developmental stages. Parents can address these issues through awareness, education, reassurance, and redirection.
In addition to recognizing typical sexual behaviors, it is also vital for parents to be aware of uncommon or inappropriate behaviors that could signal problems, such as acting out or exhibiting sexually abusive behavior, potentially arising from abuse or neglect. This guide provides an overview of common and uncommon sexual behaviors in children by age, as well as information about puberty and reproductive systems for both boys and girls. Every day presents an opportunity for your child to learn from their surroundings, starting from the moment they are born. Communication begins with your initial interactions, by listening, validating, and engaging with your child through eye contact, honesty, sensitivity, and praise.
The aim of this guide is to enhance your understanding of sexual behaviors in children and to facilitate shared discussions with your child or teenager about development, healthy boundaries, and communication. This way, they will feel comfortable coming to you with questions or concerns. Please note that this resource is not intended to replace medical or mental health advice; consult your child's doctor if you have any concerns or questions.
PRESCHOOL AGE
5 and younger
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Common Sexual Behaviors*
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Uncommon Sexual Behaviors**
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SCHOOL AGE
6 to 8 years
NOTE: Girls-Puberty begins between 8-15 years (see Puberty in Girls, What to Expect, & Female Reproductive System)
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Common Sexual Behaviors*
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Uncommon Sexual Behaviors**
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ADOLESCENCE
13 to 16 years
NOTE:
- Girls-Puberty begins between 8-15 years (see Puberty in Girls, What to Expect, & Female Reproductive System)
- Boys-Puberty begins between 9-16 years (see Puberty in Boys, What to Expect, & Male Reproductive System)
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Common Sexual Behaviors*
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Uncommon Sexual Behaviors**
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Need help?
- If you feel that the child or teen is in danger, call "911".
- If you are a parent or caregiver and this is your child:
- Talk with your child's pediatrician, or
- Call Stop It Now at 888-773-8368
- For teens, contact Teen Line
- Call 800-852-8336, or
- Text TEEN to 839863
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References
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Recommended Citation
DeCarli, J. (2024). Child Sexual Behaviors: Guidelines for parents (Public Health Behavior Solutions, Ed.). Pro Car Seat Safety. https://www.procarseatsafety.com/childsexualbehaviors.html
