​ Supporting Preschoolers (Ages 3-5) During a New Sibling's Arrival

Preschool children are naturally curious but can feel insecure with major changes. They may not fully understand what’s happening, which can lead to anxiety or regressive behaviors. Practicing the following key strategies can help improve their behavior, feelings, and development. Use simple, reassuring words. Explain that the new baby will need lots of love and care, just like they do. Tell them that they are special and will always be your big helper. Read stories about becoming a big brother or sister together and involve them in choosing the baby’s name or decorating the nursery. Praise their helpfulness and remind them they are loved.

Remember, always emphasize love, support, and that their feelings are normal. This open communication helps your child feel secure, loved, and excited to welcome their new sibling.

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Pre-Birth

• Pre-Birth Preparation:
  Talk simply about the new baby: “The baby will cry and sleep a lot. You will be a big helper!” Use picture books like "I'm a Big Sister" or "Big Brother" to illustrate the experience.
• Involving Them in Planning:
  Let your child help decorate the nursery, choose clothes, or pick a name. Consider bringing them to prenatal visits to make the process real and engaging.
• Role-Playing:
  Use dolls or stuffed animals to practice caring for a baby. This helps them understand caregiving roles and reduces fears.

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Post-Birth

• Post-Birth Routine: Keep their daily schedule as normal as possible. If routines change, prepare them in advance and explain what to expect.
• Special "Helper" Jobs:
  Assign simple tasks like fetching diapers, singing to the baby, or helping with diaper changes to foster their sense of importance.
• One-on-One Time:
  Dedicate 10-15 minutes daily for focused activity—reading, playing, or talking—to reinforce their special status. You can also have them choose the type of activity.
• Expressing Feelings:
  Encourage them to draw pictures, act out feelings, or talk about their worries. Reassure them with love and patience. Read more on how to help your child understand and express their emotions (how they feel).  

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When to Seek Help

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School-Age Children
​(6-11 years)

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Teens
(12+ years)

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